SAYING “NO” TO A SWINGER COUPLE
Suppose you and your spouse are enjoying yourselves at a swing club and meet another cheerful attractive swinger couple. You start talking and the chat really heats up. You seem to like each of them at first and you feel strong attractions to them just like they do. Everything seems to be getting along very well after a couple drinks, laughing, and dancing. As the night passes, you may start to feel a lack of attractiveness toward the couple. It may due to an awful thing they said, bad breath, or unattractive body odor, their rules and guidelines may not match your own. You begin to lack interest in the other couple and feel nothing about them. You make up your mind that the couple is not the right one to have sex with on that occasion.
It is no surprise that such things do happen for various reasons. You leave your partner and the couple in surprise and none of them can tell what really happened to you. Something in your brain just tickled in the reverse direction and you lack the sexual appeal in the couple. This could happen after all the flirting, laughing, and teasing, but now comes the hardest part. How do you break the shocking news to them?
Remember your partner is also ready for some great sex tonight and expects that you won’t let him down too. The other swinger couple is also already heated up. You are the only one with opposing thoughts that the couple is a no. You need to tell them your decision in a way that won’t hurt their feeling, as well as, not make you look like a tease.
There is one word that can make everything clear; the word is “No.” The swinging community understands that anytime the word is mentioned, no explanations should be demanded. A “No” is enough to communicate your decision and does not require explanations. Instead of giving a plain no, it would be better to pull your lover aside and tell him or her of your feelings and decision. Depending on the understanding of your lover, you will both figure out a decent way of letting your decision known by the other couple.
A perfect way is to appreciate the couple for the good moments, but tell them you want to socialize a little more on that occasion. The other couple, if in their right state of mind, will understand your intentions and will not bother as you for the remainder of the night. At times, such situation may turn out to be more complicated than what you would think.
Remember that you are all humans, with different thoughts and feelings. Your rejection will break up the fun and bring disappointments. It is, therefore, important to know how you will deliver your “NO” without hurting your reputation among fellow swingers. For newbies uncomfortable with saying no, they try to make excuses with explanations. They should, however, learn to say what they mean. If you lack interest in the couple, say a simple “No, Thank you.” You can also say you are not available now. Any answer should be accepted by the pursuing couple/individual with no hard feelings attached.
Source: https://blog.swinglifestyle.com/2015/06/10/saying-no-to-a-swinger-couple/