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Lifestyle Glossary & Acronyms

Roles

Dominant person; can be related to BDSM lifestyle or cuckold situations.

A person who agrees to give up control or receives the stimulation during kinky activities that may or may not include submission.

Within the context of cuckolding, a bull is a sexually dominant male who becomes involved with people in cuckold relationships. A bull has sex with the women in these relationships while possibly humiliating or cuckolding their male partners. A bull may also be called a cuckold bull, a swinger bull, or an alpha male, although this term isn’t used exclusively to describe bulls. The term bull can also be used in a general way to refer to any male involved with a couple regardless of his specific role (bull, boyfriend or Dom). Just as a General is also still a soldier, but the reverse isn’t typically true, a Dom is also a bull. 

An older mature woman who is primarily interested in men significantly younger than her.

Man who likes to relinquish power to a bull/alpha male who will have sex with the cuckold’s partner while the cuckold is ignored or embarrassed/humiliated.  (Swinging is NOT the same as cuckholding)

A person who consensually takes power, authority or control in a relationship, scene or activity.

A person who enjoys displaying themselves in a public or semi-public manner in order to attract attention.

A person who is aroused by objects or nonsexual parts of the body.

A person with a strong focus on the pursuit of pleasure.

A married woman who pursues sexual relationships with men other than her husband. Her husband has full knowledge of her activities, consents to them, encourages them and gets pleasure from them.

A person who doesn’t want to define their role while engaging in power exchange, role play, sadomasochism, cross-dressing and/or fetishes.

A person who enjoys watching, arranging, thinking of, and/or participating in their partner’s sexual relationships with others. The stag is the dominant partner and remains dominant when others are involved. (NOT to be confused with cuckolding)

A person who has consensual sex with other people within and outside of their committed relationships.

An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual 

activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners; single men and women are sometimes involved.

A person who participates in relationships, scenes and activities as a Top/Dominant or bottom/submissive depending on their mood, partner or the situation. Some switches enjoy changing their power dynamic during the scene.

A person who is consensually in control of the action during kinky activities.

Single female in the swinging lifestyle because they are rare.

A person who may have sexual relationships with people other than their partner with their partner’s approval and potential involvement. The vixen is the submissive partner but may be dominant to others.

A person who enjoys watching others, usually in a sexual context, without engaging with them

Lifestyle Glossary

Anyone who enjoys both the same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi; Bisexual.

 Sexually oriented material; Pornographic

Person or couple who enjoys any and all fetishes and sexual activities.

Male orgasm inside the rectum of their partner resulting in ejaculate running from the orifice.

Anal intercourse; “Butt stuff.” 

Oral contact or stimulation of the anus of one partner by kissing, licking, or sucking of the other; “Eating ass.

Euphemism for fetishes.

Consensual sex without a condom

Bondage and discipline; use of various methods to restrain someone 

while administering discipline, usually done by a “master” to his/her “slave.” Including sometimes sadomasochism/sadism when lumped in as BDSM. 

Has sexual relationships with males and females (see AC/DC).

A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.

A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered “dominant” while the person being bound is considered “submissive.”

Within the context of cuckolding, a bull is a sexually dominant male who becomes involved with people in cuckold relationships. A bull has sex with the women in these relationships while possibly humiliating or cuckolding their male partners. A bull may also be called a cuckold bull, a swinger bull, or an alpha male, although this term isn’t used exclusively to describe bulls. The term bull can also be used in a general way to refer to any male involved with a couple regardless of his specific role (bull, boyfriend or Dom). Just as a General is also still a soldier, but the reverse isn’t typically true, a Dom is also a bull. 

Person willing to invite others to their home for swinging and/or willing to travel to your home to swing. 

A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.

Sexual activity with others without spouse’s knowledge and/or consent. Also see “not cool.” 

Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases

Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms, usually in the same house. Provides a maximum of privacy. 

A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger.

n swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together, committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes.

Male orgasm inside a female, resulting in a hot mess with ejaculate seen running from her vagina.

While the original meaning is the husband of a wife who cheats, it has come to mean (more often than not) a husband whose wife plays without him and comes home to tell him about it. It can also mean a husband who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. This can also be reversed on the wife. There are a number of variations of the use of the word since it encompasses several things. 

A cuckquean is a wife with an adulterous husband, and the gender-opposite of a cuckold. In evolutionary biology, the term is also applied to females who are investing parental effort in offspring that are not genetically their own. Similar prying within a family is called wittoldry. The term is derived from Early Modern English dating back to 1562 AD

Euphemism for Fetish or Arts.

Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth. (Although it’s definitely best to ask first…ouch) 

Drug and Disease free

Term describes the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager. 

A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings

Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer the phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity. 

Individual or separate.  Also a common misspelling for “discreet.”

Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline.

Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature. 

A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.

Double penetration

Generally used to describe people who shouldn’t be swingers. They typically display aggression or jealousy while in the presence of others in the lifestyle.

A generally accepted code name used to identify members of the swinging lifestyle. Ellis stands for L.S. (Lifestyle). The question “Are you a friend of Ellis?” can be used to help identify a member of the lifestyle without compromising confidentiality. 

Behavior in which an individual experiences sexual arousal or pleasure from displaying his/her body. Enjoys being watched.

Usually in an ad on a lifestyle site to indicate that the users have kids and may have issues making time for fun. Will probably take a little longer to get to know these couples.

Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth. 

Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.

The practice of peeling & carving a piece of Ginger root into a butt plug and inserting it in the anus. The ginger oils gradually create a warming sensation, building slowly into a mildly burning one. Most commonly used in kink, role play, and BDSM scenarios, although it hasn’t been common since the Victorian era. **This is not really a swinger thing, but it was too funny not to include in the glossary** 

Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking. 

Unprotected sex including fluid exchange.

Means the couple has penetrative sex with other couples

Euphemism for sexual activity.

Three or more males on a single person.

Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses 

or pads. Term is prevalent in western US. 

Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people. 

A term to indicate that one or the other member of a couple has permission to have sex outside of the presence of the other person

Height/Weight/Proportionate.

A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected. 

Someone who lives for pleasure.

Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.

Refers to a man with a large penis.

A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing or touching of leather or leather garments. 

Another way of saying “swinger.”

Short for “lifestyle.

 Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others. 

Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others. 

Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship

Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see group room).

Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional 

interaction not directly related to sexual activity. 

Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. 

No swinging takes place at the club or party; you meet and make your own arrangements. Great for newcomers. 

 A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room. A minimum of privacy

Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; Complete absence of inhibition in everyone taking part; group sex.

Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging. 

Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the 

party and wear to change into during the party. The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play. 

(Western US): A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. 

A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion; not interested in forming any long term friendship or emotional attachment. 

Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.

 Sexual gratification through inflicting pain and humiliation on others.

Means a couple is willing to play within the same room as their spouse.

Means that the couple is willing to play at the same time in different rooms.

 swinger without a partner, does not refer to marital status. SOCIAL: A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social.

A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important. 

Couples who only have intercourse with their own partner. No swapping for intercourse. 

The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. The first experience for many couples is some type of soft-swinging. 

Passive, wishes to be dominated. 

Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity. 

An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual 

activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners; single men and women are sometimes involved.

Sexual aid in order to get and maintain an erection, taken by males. Examples include: Viagra, Levitra, Cialis, etc. 

Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships. 

Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.

Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter.

A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing.

Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.

Young, leaner attractive male gay person.

A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals. 

Means the male has a vasectomy. See also: “SAFE.”

Another way of saying V-SAFE. See also: “SAFE.”

Neither a top or bottom. Enjoys both roles

Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips.

A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts. 

Sexual gratification by watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual activity

Those people interested in activities usually considered by the majority to be bizarre, kinky, unusual, or unconventional.

Well endowed individual 

Acronyms

ATM: Ass to Mouth
BiF: Bisexual Female 
BiM: Bisexual Male 
BiMF: Bisexual Married Female 
BiMM: Bisexual Married Male 
BDSM:Bondage/Discipline/Domination/Submission/Sadism/Masochism 
CD: Cross-dresser 
CPL: Couple 
DBF: Divorced Black Female 
DBM: Divorced Black Male 
DDF: Drug and Disease Free
DD’s: Double D Chest Size 
DOM: Dominant (male) 
DOMME: Dominant (female) 
DP: Double Penetration 
D/S: Domination/Submission 
DWF: Divorced White Female 
DWM: Divorced White Male 
DTF: Down to fuck 
F/T: Full Time 
F2F: Face-to-Face F4F: Women For Woman 
F4M: Women For Man 
F4MF: Women For Man Women 
GSOH: Good Sense of Humor
GBF: Gay Black Female 
GBM: Gay Black Male 
GWF: Gay White Female 
GWM: Gay White Male 
HWP: Height/Weight Proportional
ISO: In Search Of
IRL: In Real Life 
ILU: I Love You 
LOL: Laugh(ing) Out Loud 
LTR: Long Term Relationship 
LFG: Looking for a group 
LDS: Latter-day Saints
LDR: Long Distance Relationship 
LGBT: Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender 
LGBTQ: Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Queer or Questioning
LGBTQi: Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Queer or Questioning Intersex
LGBTQIA: Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Queer or Questioning Intersex Asexual or Ally
LS: Lifestyle 
M4M: Man For Men 
M4W: Man For Women 
MBA: Married But Available 
MBF: Married Black Female 
MBM: Married Black Male 
MF4MF: Man Women For Man Women
MF4F: Man Women For Women 
MF4M: Man Women For Man 
MJF: Married Jewish Female 
MJM: Married Jewish Male 
MM: Married Men 
MWC: Married With Children 
MWF: Married White Female 
MWM: Married White Male 
NSA: No Strings Attached 
PF: Professional Female 
PM: Professional Male
P/T: Part time 
RPG: Role Playing Games
RL: Real Life 
SAF: Single Asian Female 
SAM: Single Asian Male 
SALT: Single and Loving It 
SBF: Single Black Female 
SBM: Single Black Male 
SCF: Single Christian Female 
SCM: Single Christian Male 
SHF: Single Hispanic Female 
SHM: Single Hispanic Male 
SINK: Single Income No Kids 
SJF: Single Jewish Female
SJM: Single Jewish Male 
SM: Sadism/Masochism (S&M) 
SOH: Sense of Humor 
SUB: Submissive 
SWF: Single White Female 
SWM: Single White Male 
SO: Significant Other 
SWALK: Sealed With A Loving Kiss  
TS: Transsexual 
T-Girl: Transsexual Female 
VDP: Vaginal Double Penetration 
W4M: Women For Men 
W4W: Women For Women 
W/E: Well-endowed 
WLTM: Would Like To Meet 
XOXO: Hugs and Kisses
 
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