Guide for Single Men who want to Swing & attend Lifestyle Parties. It’s not hard to be a great playmate but men do need some help navigating the basics of being a single male in the swing lifestyle. Read our guide for single men who want to swing and how to maximize your swinging fun for … Continue reading "Guide for Single Men who want to Swing & attend Lifestyle Parties."
Attending Swinger Meet & Greets If you’re like most, you’re wondering how to meet other people to swing with. One of the most common ways is to attend a swingers “meet & greet”. These events tend to be low key and give you the chance to mingle with many different people in a relativity short … Continue reading "Attending Swinger Meet & Greets"
Actual Statistics on Modern Day Swingers & Lifestyle Parties. One of the most private aspects of a person life is their sexual taste and preference. One such preference is the art and act of swinging. Due to the nature of swinging, many practitioners do not admit to being swingers for fear of possible backlash. Since this … Continue reading "Actual Statistics on Modern Day Swingers & Lifestyle Parties."
Single men in the Lifestyle. Ha, let’s not kid ourselves…as men the perception is we want only “no strings attached” sex. This is true for some men however not all. In order for a single man to be successful in the Lifestyle as a Swinger he must follow some serious rules, not appear desperate and … Continue reading "Single men in the Lifestyle."
Men – Sexism, Bias, & the Role of Men in Swinging, Lifestyle Parties & Polyamory Which came first? The rotten egg or the spiteful, angry hen who laid it? Or, more bluntly put, which came first? The troll of a misogynistic, sexist man…the misandrist female who makes all men (including the good ones) into trolls…or … Continue reading "Men – Sexism, Bias, & the Role of Men in Swinging & Polyamory."
Sex During Covid-19 – What’s Safe And What’s Not? Much debate these days we see on social media in our lifestyle community on how serious to take social distancing during COVID-19 lockdown and what’s next for those of us that like to get kinky. No matter where you fall in the spectrum on how you … Continue reading "Sex During Covid-19 – What’s Safe And What’s Not?"
Swinger Newbies. 5 Damn Good Pieces of Advice. 5 Damn Good Pieces of Advice for Swinger Newbies. Although we can’t be sure, we realize there is a good percentage of people that read our blog that might be married or in a relationship and are brand spankin’ new to the idea of swinging, and are … Continue reading "Swinger Newbies, 5 Damn Good Pieces of Advice."
7 Things You Should Know About Lifestyle Clubs Before You Go. So you are thinking of embarking on a new adventure? You and your partner thinking some spice in your bedroom might be fun? Well you are right! BUT… you hesitate. Maybe some fear of the unknown, wonder if you would fit in, maybe jaded … Continue reading "7 Things You Should Know About Lifestyle Clubs Before You Go"
Swinger Events, How Not To Get Laid. We’ve only been at this almost a year and a half, but we’re fast learners. We’ve been to many of the swingers groups, swinger parties or swinger events in the Chicagoland area at least twice or more. That’s not including the private house parties, the individual couples dates … Continue reading "Swinger Events, How Not To Get Laid."
One In Seven Americans Has Had A Threesome And One In Five Finds Them Appealing The past decade has seen a remarkable shift toward acceptance of sexual expressions typically considered taboo, from Fifty Shades of Grey making BDSM a household word to open relationships and sex parties getting unprecedented and mostly positive mainstream media attention. Yet, despite all … Continue reading "One In Seven Americans Has Had A Threesome And One In Five Finds Them Appealing"
Why I Love Watching My wife With Other Men. I never thought I’d see my wife fucking another man. We met on such innocent terms. I was confident of our love and we had been through so many things together. Not to mention, we were respectable figures in our community. There was almost no possible way … Continue reading "Why I Love Watching My Wife With Other Men"
Why the Swinger Scene Shouldn’t Be Female Driven I’ll admit the title is a bit of an attention grab but hear me out here. We have heard it more than once. The swinger scene or Swinger Clubs is/are female led, i.e. “women have the power because they have a pussy so they get to call … Continue reading "Why the Swinger Scene Shouldn’t Be Female Driven"
Unicorn hunters on dating apps are finally being called out as toxic. Like most things in the kaleidoscopic world of sex, the terms ‘unicorn’ and ‘unicorn hunter’ mean different things to different people. Over the past couple of years, open relationships and threesomes have begun to feel like the hottest dating trend. Perhaps this is a natural … Continue reading "Unicorn hunters on dating apps are finally being called out as toxic."
Bisexual Men In The Swingers Community We at The Red Couch have noticed a trend in conversation in the swingers community over the past year – bisexual men. That being said, we affirm that the topic of bisexual men in the swingers community is warranted for us to talk about. So we’d like to open … Continue reading "Bisexual Men In The Swingers Community"
The Ins & Outs Of A Polyamorous Lifestyle The polyamorous lifestyle isn’t for everyone, but it could be the perfect sexual solution for couples who are seeking to engage in consensual non-monogamy relationships. Polyamory includes having relationships with one or more people outside of a primary partnership with agreed upon conditions. Other terms you might … Continue reading "The Ins & Outs Of A Polyamorous Lifestyle"
FFM, MMF, MFM, FMF…What’s The Difference in Swinging? There tend to be quite a number of acronyms tossed around in the swinging lifestyle…ones that often confuse both novices and experienced swingers. Four such acronyms include: MMF, FFM, MFM and FMF. This isn’t surprising because most three letter acronyms seen in lifestyle ads are specific to … Continue reading "FFM, MMF, MFM, FMF…What’s The Difference in Swinging?"
FFM Threesome Debate: She Wants Butch He Wants Fem… Even the strongest couples amid the swingers lifestyle can run into differences concerning their preferences when it comes to play time. Fortunately, most of them can be worked out, including situations in which the couple wants an FFM threesome but their tastes in women varies tremendously. … Continue reading "FFM Threesome Debate: She Wants Butch He Wants Fem…"
How To Land A Unicorn Many couples involved in the swingers lifestyle find themselves seeking a single female to play with, and these love goddesses are often called ‘unicorns.’ Being a single woman in the swingers arena can be personally challenging, so landing a unicorn for your threesome is best approached with a bit of … Continue reading "How To Land A Unicorn"
Swinger Clubs & How To Choose One. I have received several emails form newbies and from veterans who wanted me to dabble in this subject of swinger clubs. Let me first explain that before you join or look for a swinger club you need to be sure you want to experience the lifestyle as a couple. … Continue reading "Swinger Clubs & How To Choose One"
Swinger Clubs Rules / Guidelines Several readers have been asking me so many questions on swinger clubs so I will target a couple of questions submitted by my readers. Below are the Q & A on Swinger Clubs. Q: Mike, why are swinger clubs becoming so popular? A: The world is becoming smaller all the time thanks … Continue reading "Swinger Club Rules"
PLACES TO MEET SWINGERS IN CALIFORNIA More and more people today are adopting a swinger’s lifestyle because of its many benefits. If it you have just found out about swinging and you want to live a swinging lifestyle, you probably don’t know the places where you can find swingers. Being in the same environment with … Continue reading "Places To Meet Swingers In California"
Mistakes for newbie Hotwives to avoid making. If most Hotwives are like me, we are time poor creatures. If you add a time-poor stag husband to the equation then it’s super important to ensure any spare play time is used wisely. It’s easy to make mistakes early on, so don’t feel bad about the less … Continue reading "Mistakes Hotwives Make"
Reclaiming a Hotwife An aspect of Hotwifing that comes up from time to time is the ritual of reclaiming. After a Hotwife has been ‘taken’ and ‘owned’ by a Bull, her Stag then ‘takes’ her back makes her his again. As it suggests, reclaiming is a way for a Stag husband to assert his alpha … Continue reading "Reclaiming a Hotwife"
How Often Should Your Hotwife Play? This is a topic for more advanced couples who are currently living the hotwife lifestyle or have definitely decided to “do it” — and now they’re just working out the details. And one detail that’s really important to work out properly and in advance is how often should your … Continue reading "How Often Should Your Hotwife Play?"